Dear Moms, Let It Go: A Mother’s Day Momma Manifesto

mother-goose-i-think-you-should-mothers-day-manifesto1. If you’re stuck, and you just can’t anymore; let it go. You can always pick up where you left off, or leave it altogether if that suits you better.

2. If you’ve tried, and you’ve failed; let it go. Success lays in trying.

3. If you find that you just can’t measure up, don’t. You aren’t supposed to. Validate your personal strengths rather than focussing on your weaknesses.

4. If someone’s mothering offends you, look away. That mother is doing what is best for her child.

5. If your mothering expectations are at odds with the child you’re parenting, stop what you’re doing and seek answers from within your child.

6. If you see pictures of an idyllic mother, look again. Realize that picture has been staged for subjective consumption and it has nothing to do with your present reality or *real* life circumstances.

7. If you’re frustrated by your inability to do ABC, do XYZ instead; sometimes a shift in perspective is all that’s necessary.

8. If you feel incapable; focus on what you’re capable of.

9. If you feel under-appreciated, realize that another mother out there appreciates you in more ways than you can imagine.

10. If you feel like you’ve been taken for granted, it is likely you have been. Step back and realize that this doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. People are taking what you have so generously offered. If it no longer feels good to offer it, you have every right to rescind the offer.

11. When you feel emotionally drained, stop what you’re doing. Retreat until you have sufficiently replenished your reserves; even if it’s only 5 minutes.

12. If you can’t live day to day; live hour to hour. If you can’t live hour to hour; live in 10 minute increments. If 10 minutes seem overwhelming, cut that down to 5 minutes. [h/t Bisi Williams].

13. Realize that frustration is embedded in the struggle. It’s natural.

14. Recognize that what you perceive to be “bad mothering” is likely an issue of a woman doing the best she can given her set of life circumstances.

15. Recognize that reckless judgments based on knee-jerk reactions often do not tell the whole story.

16. Recognize that spreading false rumours and gossip about mothers serves nothing more than to undermine and belittle the successes of ALL mothers in general.

17. Focus on your child and not other mothers.

18. Recognize that your children love you unconditionally.

19. Recognize that your life choices are likely different from another mother’s life choices. Respect her choice.

20. Go on say it and believe it: “Mothers have the hardest job in the world.” Don’t let anyone take that away from you.

21. Revel in the miracle of your child. However they got here, they are yours. Work it out, mommy.

22.  Love everything about your body, mind and soul. You earned it, yes?

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