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1. If you’re stuck, and you just can’t anymore; let it go. You can always pick up where you left off, or leave it altogether if that suits you better. 2. If you’ve tried, and you’ve failed; let it go. Success lays in trying. 3. If you find that you just can’t measure up, don’t. You aren’t supposed to. Validate your personal strengths rather than focussing on your weaknesses. 4. If someone’s mothering offends you, look away. That mother is doing what is best for her child. 5. If your mothering expectations are at odds with the child you’re parenting,…. [ Read More ]


Contrary to popular media culture belief, as the mother of two girl children aged 4 and 6, I do not spend every waking moment of our lives ruminating on the subject of pink politics as it concerns my girls, but the media and certain organizations hell-bent on breaking the so-called mould of stereotypical girlhood would have you believe I do. To date, I have not suddenly become paralyzed with indecision when it comes to choosing pink Lego over non-pink Lego for fear of raising marginalized and/or gender-conforming human beings, nor have I lost sleep over the fact that Mulan now…. [ Read More ]


Recently a friend posted this on Facebook. 22 comments later, the comments got kind of heated. It’s always interesting to me what ordinary people [like me] think Rich People [like Oprah] should do with their money. I find that the people who are the most vocal about how Rich People can SAVE MANKIND are fairly typical in their suggestions as to what they presume are the most pressing needs in our world. [Suggestions include: save a country, prevent and cure world hunger and thirst; prevent homicide, matricide, and suicide; cure debt, cure illiteracy, cure and decrease infant mortality, end child.... [ Read More ]

2010, I hardly knew ya… To say that 2010 was capital B, busy is an understatement. But I can only attempt to measure it at this point by illustrating what I want to accomplish in 2011. Personally, I’m not big on regrets, but I am big on review and reflection. I can tell you that September to December happened at break neck speed. I can tell you that in these past 3 months that Life happened in a way that was both qualitatively intense and quantitatively fascinating measured by the events that happened to me, around me and in the…. [ Read More ]


A few days ago Jezebel compiled and posted this compilation of Kanye West’s “most ridiculous on air moments.” I’m not sure what the point of the PSA was other than to draw yet more attention to the fails and foibles of a young Holly’weird entertainer on the brink; to further humiliate, demonize, excoriate, and mock a black male celebrity—oh look, he’s so angry [but in that sexy black male kind of way]—to add more fuel to the fire and ire of a clearly inexhaustible genius and sometime professional ego-maniac; or to show how ‘on point’ Jezebel is when it comes…. [ Read More ]


A few weeks ago I kind of lost my marbles. Well, it was a long time in coming, but I think I just simply maxed-out a few days ago. I took to my blog to write a post about some online issues that were creating stress in my life, and to empty my head a little. I thought it would be a good idea to try and make conversational sense out of what I had let happen to me as opposed to letting the irritability continue. As I noted, I had been a silent-in-deed, active-in-word participant in the online global…. [ Read More ]

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There’s a new fashion magazine controversy making the rounds in the blogosphere. I found this item courtesy of @Jezebel. Short on the heels of the Elle magazine Gabourey Siddibe blunder, up steps a fashion spread from Numero magazine in Europe. Here we have white model Constance Jablonski, face of Estee Lauder, bronzed out with a deep tan, a large afro and a black baby. The conversations spinning around the blogosphere go something like this: Black babies are used as propos and a fashion accessory.  And oh really, given the dearth of black models in editorials and runways and particularly at…. [ Read More ]

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So if you haven’t figured it out by now, I’m the Passionate type. The passion part carries equal weight with my being Emotionally Sensitive and Terrifically Intense. Ya. A Barrel of Laughs is what they call me. But, come on now, I can be fun, too. [Never said I was “cool.”] And I know how to have a good time. But I’m not for everyone—who is? Guess what peeps, when you get older, you also get to a place where you’re OK with this. [Well, some of us anyway]. I also endeavour to live the old-school vibe of “live &…. [ Read More ]

11:00pm’ish. It’s late. I don’t usually write posts this late because I’m usually surfing or checking Twitter updates, talking to my huzzband, watching him design something, or cleaning something in my house. Traditionally, at this hour, I might be checking in on our beautiful sleeping girls, or rummaging through the fridge or cupboards looking for something to eat. You know, something. But tonight, we are in our office space working on finances, and I’m on Twitter. Something catches my eye. It’s about the Fantasia Barrino overdose/attempt. And this twitterer/blogger I catch is phenomenal in her assessment of what is happening…. [ Read More ]

Like you, sometimes I bite the hand that feeds me. It’s not something I do intentionally or wilfully, but I do live in this world, and it is a hard fact of life that one is not always righteous or good or above reproach. Being human dictates that we all at one time or another will mess up. And luckily for us, we’re all sinners and nobody loves a sinner more than Jesus. What I mean is that if you “believe” then you know that “confessing” your sins—coming clean as it were—is a step in the righteous direction. Any addict…. [ Read More ]

The Other Day on Twitter I was faced with my very first conundrum: To Tweet or Not To Tweet, and To Follow or Not To Follow. It hasn’t happened to me before, and well, like a lot of things, there’s a first time for everything. Here’s the Tweet which I posted, and instantly deleted, but not before copying it into an email and saving it in the Drafts Folder of my Outlook: dear @HollyOrd I am not an atheist, & nothing in this life will ever make me one. is it ok 4 me 2 follow U on Twitter. I…. [ Read More ]

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It’s been a long time coming…. You know the song. So I’ve been thinking. A lot. About you, about me, and everyone else in the world as defined by North American pop-cultural-tics. Really about the American way of Life and how we fit in, or don’t fit in as the case may be. Yes, increasingly, I’m interesting in this particularly insular and narrow point of view because this world is [in] my immediate future. I am but a mere blip on the screen, but feeling like I “belong” while feeling like the ultimate insider/outsider allows me a bit of flexibility…. [ Read More ]

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Recently I came across a blog, by way of Roger Ebert [@ebertchicago] who tweets like a freak [frequently, feverishly, fervently] and whom I follow on Twitter. The blog is called Fatshionista. It is primarily written by a woman called Leslie Kinzel [@52stations] who is a “Fat Advocate.” Not that it’s particularly germane to my telling of her story, nor is it any of your business, but Ms. Kinzel weighs 300 lbs and she is married. You can find this information along with other “Fat Facts” in her profile, and as you read through entry after marvellous entry you get a…. [ Read More ]

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This morning, my 5 year old daughter, who has been reading since she was 3 ½ was teaching her sister, age 2, how to match and identify the words to the animals on her puzzle. It was indeed a “moment.” Prior to that they were screaming at one another, grabbing for the same item, and competing for my attention. My husband is still sleeping. Don’t! get me started. But when my 5 year old decided that she wanted to share her knowledge with her sister, most importantly, without being asked to do so, she simply took the initiative. Hers. Children…. [ Read More ]

I LOVE reading a good read. For me it goes without saying, except that I’m gonna say it. What constitues a good read for me is something that is well-written, engaging, informative and beautifully executed in a way that speaks to my sensibilities and inclinations. Since joining the Blogosphere, albeit somewhat “late” in the game, I’ve had the great fortune to find a few gems that have captured and retained my interest in ways that I had not previously imagined. I think that when you are busy in your own world trying to make relevance of your own life, you…. [ Read More ]

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